Body language is crucial to attraction. Eye contact, being a part of body language, is often overlooked though, as a substantial parcel of body language. There is a lot more to flirting and sending the right message than batting a pretty eyelash, but the idea is right! To establish the right kind of hidden message, you have to learn to hold eye contact for LONGER than the person you are connecting with. This sounds simple, but it is unbelievably powerful and effective when you actually do it with the people around you.
When you see a man you are attracted to, when he looks back at you, do not break eye contact. That is totally counterintuitive for most women - it seems very uncomfortable NOT to look away. But if you want to communicate the RIGHT things to him in order to spark attraction, hold his gaze. If you find it difficult - you are not alone! Most women, including myself, have found it difficult to do at first. The thing is - different is GOOD in attraction.
If something catches your curiosity - it is more than likely that the thing is DIFFERENT than the things around it. See where I am going with this? You should practice this before you really try it out though. Try going to the supermarket, and looking directly into the eyes of every man you see.
Look at him until he looks away. You do not need to try to look menacing or "powerful" in any way - just look at him until he drops eye contact first. Do this until it becomes second nature.
Remember, though, you are not trying to be more POWERFUL than he is, or stare him down like some kind of creepy freak. So try to keep it natural, just direct. If you are talking to a guy - look away every once in a while - that's fine. Just show him from the start that you are not intimidated by him or unsure of yourself.
If the dialogue continues and you've made some good eye contact, try then breaking the eye contact by glancing away and possibly chatting with someone else or letting yourself be diverted by something else. Then, look back at him after a short while. This "start and stop" interplay is very exhilarating for men, and gives them time to watch you and want your attention again. On your first date with this guy - change things up a little for him. Act like "one of the guys", a little more friendly with him and less flirty - keep him on his toes and maybe a little unsure of your attraction level to him. This will make him work harder to try to keep you around, and will also bolster the attraction between you.
This type of play will keep him attracted and will keep him thinking about what he can do to keep your attention focused on him. It will also keep him guessing - which makes life a lot more interesting for the man, and ultimately, for you!.
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